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What is my definition of BDSM?

BDSM is an generic term for certain kinds of erotic behavior between consenting adults. BDSM stands for bondage|discipline|sadism|masochism

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To me BDSM is consensual control and submission. I choose to be pushed beyond my limits by a master I picked. The key here is in trusting and knowing that the master will not really hurt you and has your best interest at heart.

The master likely controls with: bondage, discipline, dominance, submission, and other dynamics. It’s a very lose term open to different meanings to each participant. Each relationship will have their own tools. There is no right or wrong, just be honest and figure out what things you and your master enjoy.

The relationship between slave and master must be a voluntary agreement but a very unequal agreement. This imbalance makes the trust important. Commonly the dominant person is referred to as the master or "dom". In the same fashion the lesser role is called the slave or "sub". In my case, I do not feel like a slave but I do submit to anything I am told. I would never take my clothes off on the side of a busy highway. Not under my own thoughts anyway. However, I love it when I am ordered to get out and stripe of my clothes in full view of any passerby. I’m free from the guilt since it’s not my idea. I’m turned on by the power and the rush.

My master and I are really not that into the common image of whips, ropes or general bondage. We are more into a willing control and a less painful approach. If you have read the rules you will see that I am not allowed to wear clothing. Sure I can put on clothes. I'm not tied up or restrained. But I chose not to wear them. My master wants me nude therefore I am nude. I enjoy doing this. I enjoy the freedom from clothes and I enjoy the risk of someone seeing me.

I have to pull my pants down below my knees when I pee. This is a lot harder then it sounds. In a public restroom other men can see this. My master does not physically make me do this. I wiling do this for her. There is an excitement in being embarrassed and knowing that I am doing something I would never do on my own. This rule or repetitive act keeps my thinking about her and her control. I cannot use the bathroom without thinking about her control and thus getting slightly aroused. It not simply about being tied up and beaten. It’s about loving the other person enough to go beyond your comfort level.

The picture above is a great example of control and dominance without any abuse. My master and I spent a couple hours driving around taking pictures. Neither of us is a photographer and we just used a basic phone. The point wasn’t to get world class pictures. The point was to have fun and push our limits. I staid nude the entire time. As we drove around we looked for safe places to park and objects that would make interesting focus points in the picture. My master was turned on by having the control and I was turned on by being naked in public. Can you tell I am into voyeurism? We both had a great time.

If you’re getting into BDSM remember it’s about your comfort level. If you don’t like being tied up or spanked then talk to your master. Be open and honest with what you enjoy. Communication will just make it better for you both. BDSM is being freed from you own limitation and giving the power to another person. They get to call the shots.