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Can a Christian be into BDSM?

The Bible does not come out and say one thing or another about BDSM. In Gods view there is nothing wrong with BDSM in general. It’s the sub culture that often goes along with BDSM that cause the issues. I think everyone can agree that God is very clear about sex outside of marriage. If you’re not married, you have no business having any kind of sex.

Hebrews 13:4

Let marriage be held in honor among all and let the marriage bed be undefiled. God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous.

That is getting more complicated. Undefiled does not define how you can make love. It means to keep it free from sin by not committing adultery. No sex with other people. BDSM has nothing to do with wife swapping or slave swapping. Sure you can be into those and into BDSM.

But taking part in BDSM activities or dominating your marriage partner does not mean your into swapping.

My wife and I have very clear grounds that there will be no sex with other people.

1 Corinthians 7:5

Do not to deprive one another, except perhaps by agreement for a limited time, that you may devote yourselves to prayer; but then come together again, so that Satan may not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.

What? Your lack of self-control. Does God know that we are sinners and are sexual beings. Yes, he made us and he made us an out. By being married and honoring that marriage we are free to act out our sexual desires with our partner. There is nothing wrong with your spouse tying you up and spanking you from time to in Gods eyes. Again it’s about communication. If you’re truly abusing your slave and not listening to them, you probably have an issue. However, when you openly talk you get to know what works and doesn’t. My wife and I have grown much closer from talking about BDSM tasks and have grown closer to God.

With that said there is more to cover. There are dark aspects of BDSM that a Christian needs to avoid. Bringing real pain, real degradation and intense humiliation to the point that it distorts the love and the bond between the married couple is trouble and a sin. You cannot try to actually hurt your spouse. Everything has to be done with the intent of both parties enjoying the acts and growing closer from them.

Being a Christian does not mean you must have sex in a missionary position only for the intent of reproducing children. You will not find one verse saying that is a condition of salvation. Man came up with these strict rules in response to his own shame. Remember man and women did not wear cloths till after the fall. God showed man how to make clothing because man was ashamed of his nakedness. God was not offended that they were naked. Genesis 2:25 And the man and his wife were both naked and were not ashamed.

1 Samuel 19:23-24

God’s Spirit came over him too. He continued on his journey, prophesying until he came to the pastures at Ramah. He even took off his clothes as he prophesied in front of Samuel and lay there naked all day and all night.

Micah 1:8

I will mourn and cry because of this. I will walk around barefoot and naked. I will cry like a jackal and mourn like an ostrich.

You see its not God that has an issue with nakedness its man. If you right with God and not ashamed of who you are inside, you should not be ashamed of being naked. Man’s lustful desires have led the modern Christian to believe that it is wrong to be nude. It’s wrong if your causing others to sin. If your posting nude images to get others to lust after you, you are sinning. If your posting nude images of yourself because your building yourself esteem and trying to grow as an individual you’re not sinning. If you’re doing naked jumping jacks on the side of the road your intent is not to make others sin. You’re not sinning. Gods knows your heart. God knows if your intent is right or wrong and the Holy Spirit will conflict you of your sins. Just make sure it’s the Holy Spirit convicting you and not your own internal fears.

I am a Christian. I am saved and I will go to heaven. My spouse is a Christian and will go to heaven. God has no issues with her dominating me. He has no issues with me masturbating in front of her or me not wearing clothes when she wants. If anything he is pleased that we have such a strong relationship and consult him in our sexual activates.